MISSION STATEMENT: SUSTAINABLE LIFE SATISFACTION℠ TECHNIQUES (SLS℠) My mission is to use my experience, expertise, voice and pen to help people realize there is “a path to sustainable life satisfaction through a belief in your inherent lovability.” “Sustainable Life Satisfaction℠,” (SLS℠) is based on theories that I have researched and developed from cognitive-behavior therapy and refined over my 20 years of interaction with clients. My brand of therapy and therapeutic success is based on the precept that the majority of people do not have an inherent belief in their likeability or loveability. Therapy isn’t for everybody; however, if you’re motivated, you are the only tool necessary because you are the change agent. With life satisfaction comes an ability to conquer inner fears of inadequacy and the profound discovery and trust in your “inherent loveability.” In order to reinforce this concept I utilize a number of SLS℠ techniques and strategies including starting is easy, closing is hard, decision-making, facing fears, reducing people-pleasing behaviors and active self-reinforcement. These techniques assist individuals in believing in their personal effectiveness in the world, as well as giving them a sense of personal control of outcomes to the best of their ability. SLS℠ BRAND TECHNIQUES These six core techniques assist individuals in believing in their personal effectiveness in the world, as well as giving them a sense of personal control of outcomes to the best of their ability. 1. STARTING IS EASY, CLOSING IS HARD: Learning the importance of closing tasks-not just starting. It’s imperative not just to start, but to also finish and close.
2. DECISION-MAKING: Feeling confident in decision-making, without fearing mistakes or ramifications improves self-confidence and in turn improves chances for “closing.”
3. FACING FEARS: Do not be afraid to be afraid. Use your fear as positive motivation to propel and compel you to move forward.
4. REDUCE PEOPLE PLEASING BEHAVIORS: Avoid situations of co-dependency and enmeshment. Learn to live an authentic life without living in “service” of others. Watch people pleasing behaviors which secure feelings of indispensability while averting fears of abandonment.
5. AVOIDING ASSUMPTIONS: Avoid making assumptions about what other people think or feel about you. Your actions should be based on fact and not assumptions. Making decisions about how to proceed in a given situation based on guessing instead of facts is a dangerous exercise.
6. ACTIVE SELF-REINFORCEMENT: Providing tangible self-reinforcement for “closing” or a job well done. Make a cognitive shift from aspiring and needing reinforcement and praise from others to be willing to accept self-praise.